The Hindu wedding ceremony is in essence a fire-sacrifice and no Hindu marriage is considered complete unless in the presence of the Sacred Fire. This has a deep origin in the ancient ceremony of cementing the bonds of friendship and alliance. A Hindu wedding incorporates many of the timeless rituals and customs from the Vedic period.
The Saptapadi सप्तपदी is the most important component of Hindu weddings. Sapta means seven and padi means steps in Sanskrit and the Saptapadi is a ceremony where seven encirclements of the Holy Fire by the bride and the groom together. This symbol of Agni is witness to the vows they make each other. Walking around the fire together, the most important part of the ceremony, they say a vow with each step to each other for this life long union.
The vows are about sharing, strength, wealth, health, happiness, children, comfort and friendship. During the pheras or steps, the Gods are invoked to shower blessings on the bride and the groom. It is believed that when a married couple takes seven pheras together, their married life will be happy for a long time. You can read and download the vows here.
In every region of India their are small differences such as which partner walks first and which hand is held but always there are circles around the Holy Fire.
- In North India, the first six circuits are led by the bride, and the final one by the groom.
- In Central India, the bride leads the first three or four circuits.
- In some areas of Western India, only four steps, signifying Artha (prosperity) Dharma (righteousness) Kama (energy) and Moksha (detachment).
- In South Indian weddings, after each saying a mantra at each of the seven steps, the couple say these words together:
- "Now let us make a vow together. We shall share love, share the same food, share our strengths, share the same tastes. We shall be of one mind, we shall observe the vows together..."
- In North Indian weddings, the bride and the groom say the following words after completing the seven steps:
- "We have taken the Seven Steps. You have become mine forever. Yes, we have become partners. I have become yours. Hereafter, I cannot live without you. Do not live without me. Let us share the joys. We are word and meaning, united. You are thought and I am sound. May the night be honey-sweet for us. May the morning be honey-sweet for us..."
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A South Indian Wedding – The Rituals and the Rationale by Padma Vaidyanath